…toys in every store
and the saddest sight to see
is the credit card receipt
from your shopping spree at “Gimme More”

Ok, so I’ll never have a top 10 hit. So how’s everyone else’s Christmas plans going? All I have left is mailing cards, finish shopping, do the children’s christmas program, stuff stockings, & a partridge in a pear tree. & oddly enough, I love this time of year!

For the sole person who’s looked at this blog in the past year, I’m back. Part of my me-year, I’m going to try & post more. So for my first post, hope everyone’s recovered from the chocolate od of the weekend.

Tulips blooming in the snow

Well, we made it. As of last Saturday, we finished our year of “firsts”. It’s supposed to get easier, right? I’ll stop missing her so much? Guess that’s too much to hope for; I mean, how can you stop missing your mother? I spent the day being nothing. Slept until my eyes wouldn’t stay shut anymore, then parked myself on the couch & watched TV. Surprisingly I didn’t feel upset, or sad, or whatever. I just felt nothing. I think in some ways, that was easier, but also harder.

The firsts are over. Now it’s time to learn how to cope with this new “normal”.

This weekend I was up at my dad’s, and since my church up there was having their annual Christmas program (and meal afterward), dad came with me. They were supposed to do “The Best Christmas Pageant Ever”, but since most of their cast was sick or out of town, we watched the movie instead. Interesting concept, watching a movie in church.

 

If you’ve never seen it, here’s a quick overview of the story. The Herdmans are the absolute worst children in the world, as the narrator informs us in the beginning. They lie, steal, smoke, talk about women’s underwear, and in general terrorize the other kids in town. The only safe haven for the other kids is church, a place that the Herdmans would never visit. However, through several twists of fate, the awful Herdmans not only come to church, but manage to get cast in the annual Christmas Pageant. The other kids are resentful, the adults are scandalized, and the Herdmans are enjoying their newest powers of destruction.

 

During the rehearsals, it comes out that none of the Herdmans have heard the Christmas story. “Don’t you know who Jesus is?” They’re puzzled by this story of a baby King born in a barn, shocked at the lack of welcome he received, and share their opinion of what they would have done differently. As the play director states at one point, “this might be the first Christmas pageant where the shepherds beat up the Wise Men, and Mary runs off with the baby!”

 

As in all sappy Christmas movies (I’m a sucker for sappy Christmas, so I’ve seen more than my share!), the Herdmans have a change of heart and learn the true meaning of Christmas. In the end, they wind up teaching the children and adults some valuable lessons about true Christ love.

 

Now, I know the story is supposed to be about the Herdmans and their transformation, but while watching the movie, I couldn’t help but focus in on the church and other kids. One girl follows the Herdmans around, making notes of all their sins so she can show it to everyone when the play winds up being a failure. The adults try to have the pageant canceled. The only one fighting for the Herdmans is Grace, the pageant director. She didn’t ask to be in charge, she didn’t ask for the Herdmans to be in the play, but she’s determined to make this the best Christmas pageant ever.

 

How many times have the Herdmans come to our church? How have we treated them? How many other Herdmans are out there? People we judge based on their actions, yet we don’t consider that maybe they act that way simply because they don’t know any other way. People we don’t take time to speak to, let alone get to know. At one point, Grace’s children are complaining that they’re dirty and smelly. Their father points out that Mary and Joseph were that way too. Hungry, cold, smelly, dirty from traveling all that way on a donkey; alone and friendless in a strange town. And instead of a welcoming greeting, they’re forced to make do with a barn and a feed trough.

 

My wish this Christmas is that we all have a few Herdmans visit. And may we, like Grace, share with them the true reason behind this season of love, peace and hope.

It’s the middle of November, which means I’ve almost made it through this whole dreadful year. This time last year, I knew 2008 would be miserable, so I’m just looking forward to January 11 when my year of “firsts” is over & I can get back to figuring out what the new “normal” is.

I can remember one thanksgiving a couple years back. Mom was rushed to the hospital a couple days before, with a tentative release date of Thanksgiving morning. So I spent most of the Wednesday before on the phone going over the recipes, order to cook things, & checking to see what goes next. By the end of the day, I was worn out from countless phone calls & mom’s “hounding” me….and what I wouldn’t give to have that year back.

It’s weird, I knew the coming holidays would be rough. Mom always made a big fuss over them. No matter how dysfunctional we were, it was still about family & being together. And even as bad as she was last year, with her nurse doing most of the decorating & friends helping me prepare the meal, she was still there, a vital part of our holidays. Now, that vital part’s gone, and I’m starting to feel more alone than I did right after the funeral. It’s like, during the funeral & right after, there was so much to do. Let’s get the service planned…let’s get the closet cleaned out…let’s close out accounts & get things switched around. And now, just as the holidays are approaching, all the to-dos are done, & I’m left with facing my feelings. And dealing with feelings is something I don’t deal with very well.

After, in my opinion, WAY too long of a campaign, all of the votes have been tallied & we have a new president. For better or worse, Obama will be our next president.

There’ve been a lot of posts about this election. Dire warnings about what will happen if we elect a black man; hurtful and hateful statements that are skewed, embellished, or flat out lies; bitter resentment because of the outcome. Since I refuse to argue politics with anyone, I really haven’t had any fall out from the election, but I know people who have lost friends over it. I have co-workers who are unbelievable arrogant about the results. And I’ve heard the spiteful declaration that “if he’s elected, I’m moving to Canada.” 

Fact is, we live in a country where the people elect who they want to lead them. Hopefully, they choose based on who they believe to be the better qualified and not based on some grade-school popularity contest. And when the man–or woman–we support isn’t elected, what then? Do we throw a temper tantrum, declare “not my president!” & act like a spoilsport? Or do we accept it, move on & pray for our leader? I, for one, did not vote for Obama. I don’t think he’s the most qualified, his liberal views are too extreme for the nation’s leader, & quite frankly, I’m concerned about the possible aftermath of electing a black man in this country. For all we say we’re evovled & have moved past the atrocities of the 60s, there are still too many good ol’ boy rednecks that act stupid & don’t think about the consequences. Or, the threat that some terrorist will see this as a perfect opportunity to damage our country even more.

He wasn’t my choice, but he is my president. And despite how I feel about his politics, I will accept him and support him as such. I may be on the other side, but my hope and prayer is that he will be able to do something that very few presidents ever have: unite this country into one nation. He’s facing a monumental task: the economy is at its worst, unemployment is high, we’re in the middle of 2 wars. I pray that his platform of “Change” will indeed be a reality. I pray that his words of moving forward together will be accomplished. I pray that we can all learn from McCain’s concession speech:

I urge all Americans who supported me to join me in not just congratulating him, but offering our next president our good will and earnest effort to find ways to come together to find the necessary compromises to bridge our differences and help restore our prosperity, defend our security in a dangerous world, and leave our children and grandchildren a stronger, better country than we inherited.

Whatever our differences, we are fellow Americans. And please believe me when I say no association has ever meant more to me than that.

And, if you’ve read this far, I encourage you to visit http://www.zefrank.com/from52to48withlove/ for a visual statement of the need to unite during this new chapter of our lives.

Congratulations, Mr. Obama. I may not have voted for you, but I will support you as my next president. I pray that you have the wisdom, guidance, strength and compassion to lead our country to the best of your ability.

So it’s been brought to my attention that y’alls are lost w/out my tails of horror and absurdity, so here’s the latest chapter.

Our agency was consumed by the dark side…I mean, transitioned to DHS. Former agency said repeatedly that they wanted this to go smoothly, that our members and provider agencies were the most important thing & they didn’t want them to suffer during this time. Uh huh, anyone ever hear of the phrase, “ya right!” Anyway, last week began the network switchover. Supposedly they had everything ready to go & come Wed, we’d come in & everything would be switched over w/out a hitch. Wed we came in to find that the whole network was down. No problem, they’re working on it & it’ll be done by end of day. Finally Fri part of it came back online. Coupled with the 4 days we’ve already been down, this makes almost 2 weeks of no work in the last month. Then Fri I find out that our managers at the former agency were told to go thru all the files, choose which ones DHS should get, & only those would be transferred. I was able to check, & if what I’m seeing, a lot of what we need to do our job isn’t getting transitioned. Talk about petty! For example, they have also:

*stolen every trash can in the public areas (break rooms, file rooms, copy rooms, etc.)
*confiscated all office supplies, leaving us with barely anything
*refused to let anyone in who is coming to see DHS (we’re in a secure building, so you have to be buzzed in.)

We’ve also discovered that the huge project we were working on, under the impression that it had to be done for the transition, wasn’t even presented to DHS, that instead the CEO is using it to brag about “see what we did?”

I’ve tried to remain positive about all this. I have friends at the old agency, & it’s hard not working with them after all these years. But when they’re being so petty & childish, it’s enough to make me want to sever all ties. Enough is enough! Much as I was dreading leaving, I can’t wait until they move us.

This is mainly for my benefit, but if anyone has some advice I’d be happy to hear it.

 

Our company provides administrative support for a government waiver program, & recently the state has opted to take over that role. We have the option of going with the state, & thus continuing to do what we’re doing, or leaving to “explore other career opportunities” as it’s called around here. Essentially, I have to get a new job, whether it be with the state or with someone else. There are definite good & bad points for staying, and for going for that matter. And since I work better with things spelled out in black and white, I’m trying to objectively list the pros/cons for staying here.

 

Pro:

I wouldn’t have to pack up & move

Continue working w/ people I know & like

Same pay as what I’m making now (& actually a little higher)

Great benefits, + pension, + retirement fund

Won’t have to look for another job

Training available

Access to other government agencies

 

Con:

Could make more working in private sector

Current pay is better, but raises are rare

Do I really want to work for them for 30 years?

Could use this opportunity to explore other careers

Get away from the politics

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Olympic Medal winners at NBC Olympics.com!